Jill, a highly sensitive (HSP) client, came to see me and expressed pain about feeling misunderstood.
“I’m just socially awkward,” she said. “It seems like when I try to do something heartfelt, I end up being too nice, too friendly, or too generous to the other person, and then they feel bad.”
Ah, that dreaded word, “TOO.” It’s just three letters, but preceded by “You are…” and followed by a few choice adjectives, it’s enough to make an HSP cringe. “You are too sensitive.” “You are too intense.” “You are too emotional.” Or my favorite, “You think too much.” (I hate that one! What does it even mean?! How can you think less than you think?! How much thinking is enough?!)
OK. Deep breath. Back to Jill. [Read more…]